Many kids experience a range of negative feelings and emotions during a divorce. While these feelings are natural, it’s important for parents to do their best to support kids emotionally and insulate them from disputes. Psychology Today explains how parents can do this to ensure their children are able to navigate the divorce and its aftermath in the healthiest way possible.
While it’s easier said than done, do what you can to have a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex. Kids are best supported by both parents, and you must put hurt feelings and personal differences aside to work with your former spouse on raising your kids in a cohesive manner. A co-parenting plan is beneficial in this case, as it provides a framework for parents to work through issues as they arise.
Even if you have a relatively healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex, issues might still come up. In this case, refrain from maligning or blaming your spouse in the presence of the children you share. This negative language will greatly impact your kids, and they may even internalize what you say due to their close, personal relationship with the other parent. If you have a problem, direct it at your ex-spouse and keep your children out of it.
Finally, make sure your kids are privy to a consistent schedule. Routines are comforting for kids, and the more consistent your routine, the less emotional upheaval your child will experience. If you share custody, try to find a way to make it work for your family. You can develop a schedule for custody that remains steady from week to week, which your kids will have an easier time adjusting to than if the schedule is constantly changing.