Shared custody can be difficult for many divorced parents. This is especially true during the school year when planning and scheduling are often far more complex than during summer break. Fortunately, there are things you and your ex can do to make it much easier for all involved, especially your kids. Parents Magazine offers the following advice.
No two custody arrangements are the same. What works for one family may not work for your situation. Accordingly, feel free to get creative with your former spouse when devising the arrangement. Factors like the age of your children and your work obligations obviously play a significant role in planning. Some examples of custody arrangements are alternating weeks, alternating weekends, or two days with one parent, and the next two days spent with the other.
Frustrations are common in all families, especially among divorced parents. However, keep in mind that any negative language you speak about your ex in front of your children is bound to have an emotional impact. While you may be frustrated with his or her behavior, that doesn't mean that he's not a loving and kind parent to your children. In this case, only speak positively about your ex in front of the kids. If you have an issue, take it up with your former spouse directly.
If you have issues communicating with your ex, try taking a different approach. Many divorced couples have a hard time meeting in person soon after the divorce has been finalized while tensions are still high. In this case, use text or email to communicate. This will also provide you a source of reference for conversations if a dispute arises. At some point, you may be able to face your ex in a constructive way, which benefits everyone.