For divorced couples in Missouri, navigating custody issues can be a real challenge. While it is possible to make decisions regarding child-rearing in a civil manner, for many people it takes a bit of work to do so. That’s why Parents offers the following tips, which can help you deal with shared custody in a healthy and productive manner.

Keep Kids in Mind

While you might have ill-feelings towards your ex, keep your kids in mind when making any decisions. This will prevent you from using your child to spite your former spouse, such as by withholding visitation. Doing this will not only result in legal reprisal, it can also impact your child emotionally. Unless there are issues related to abuse or neglect, it’s best for kids to have healthy and loving relationships with both parents.

Communicate Effectively

If you have a hard time dealing with your ex face to face you’re in luck. These days there are an array of communication methods, including text and email. That way you can make decisions together without creating an uncomfortable or aggravating situation. Communicating via text or email will also provide you a record of what transpired, which can be helpful if you need to have a visitation order modified.

Review Your Arrangement When Necessary

In the same token, both you and your ex are able to modify a visitation schedule if necessary. This is often the case when a child grows older, which would mean changes in things like after-school activities and social interests. Be sure to involve your child in the discussion to ensure his or her needs are being sufficiently met.